Emasculatory Emotional, feisty, nasty. Great list, I am currently doing a design project on language and feminism focusing on the way we use just. Some people are lovely, but I often hear it used by men and women who clearly have an issue with women who do not fit the lovely mould and reserve it for those women who meet the lovely criteria. Snob Frigid prick tease Required fields are marked *. Share Improve this answer Follow edited Oct 31, 2013 at 19:48 answered Oct 31, 2013 at 19:19 Lumberjack So bossy was a way to cast a woman as unfeminine and unnatural. Your joke contributes to a culture of violence. Pyramid of five layers: 1: the top, pinnacle = murder; 2: rape, sexual assault, physical, emotional and financial abuse; 3: harassment, threats and verbal abuse; 4: traditional roles, glass ceiling, rigid gender-based stereotypes, 5: sexist/homophobic/transphobic jokes, problematic language, objectification. Baby mother/Baby momma 3. Much food for thought to discuss in my positive relationships lesson with 14-15 year students next week. Its probably more useful for society to see both fathers and mothers as people who work both at home and in other jobs, so rather than abolish working mother, it might be nice to popularise seeing men as working fathers. If I do, I am met with a stony silence and they look past me as though I havent spoken. Fried egg tits . Its also the lack of lexemes for women. I was labelled a tomboy because I played cricket, ran about a lot, and liked climbing and cycling and judo. Maternal (when not about ones own children). Two of the women were killed while protecting Mr Garcia's baby and 2-year-old daughter by embracing them and covering them with clothing, Mr Garcia said at the vigil. Because, if you did, you might understand that there are feminist schools of thought that study the division of labour, and which concentrate on understanding the value of things like work in the home, caring for children, and so forth. Take the word "bossy", which is mostly used to refer to opinionated girls or women who assert themselves. I was accused of bleating while trying to explain why it may be inappropriate for men to fundraise for a hospital by doing a bed push dressed as female nurses Maybe you could add a section on things we do ourselves without realising it. ), Little old lady (I like to imagine that woman driving an ambulance in the World War II, or doing a familys laundry without electricity. Its terms like this which conditioned me into thinking men were superior. Totty The Little Lady A white guy trying to emulate a black rapper with overtly sexist, hateful lyrics. Bird I feel that this may be an integral part of homo sapiens behaviour. These words come fromthis fantastic tip-sheet from the University of Arizona Commission on the Status of Women, available as a PDF here: I dont know about you, but Im a bit tired after all of that. Thanks for the enriching piece of writing! Shes an economist and a brilliant writer. Id rather embrace it and be open about it, not deny what I cant control. This is basic self respect. If you call a man emasculated you are actually blaming WOMEN for doing this to him. And my brothers have daughters, and its likely the same for them too. Check out this wonderful series of #banbossy posters. The reviews came from 28 different companies, all in the tech sector, and included a range of organisational sizes. Its commonplace to come across feminists inventing new, creative ways to feel offended, and its SO damaging. Learn a new word every day. A person can enjoy holding one baby without being clucky or hearing her clock tick. I think accepting people as they are and educate with heart using masculine and feminine aspects of ourselves is helpful. Sometimes it is used to describe objects and scenery, but that is because the thing in question is evoking strong emotion from the person describing it. And bubbly pisses me off, Empire building! It doesnt mean that women are being compared to objects. Baby-hater (or any implication that working females hate kids) A ball-buster. They were not expected to direct activities and lead the group. What a wake up call reading this has been. I have variously been unfairly called difficult, disobedient, rebellious and challenging by both my parents, and teachers because I was an active girl, who asked a lot of detailed questions about subjects in class, had a passion for learning, wanted to study in greater depth than teachers allowed, and was always curious and inquisitive. My brother-in-law (husbands brother) who, incidentally, calls his wife things like the little woman says things like accusing me of wearing the trousers in my marriage to my husband. And a few months ago a friend labelled me as bossy. And that is why violence is often towards women, that is the one area where men usually are more powerful. Other examples, too many to mention. But the core dynamic will still be there, damn Im ranting, anyway, I liked your comment. It happens in our so-called enlightened nations, too. And lovely, when used to praise women for being an idea of perfect. I read your reply, and felt a pang of upset, because it reminded me of some very personal experiences of being insulted in a sexist way by NURSES, SOME OF WHOM WERE MALE. Amen praise god.. Men are encouraged to wear wedding rings as to appear stable. Just a bit baffled, J.C. in what way do you imply that debate is masculine? Id add conniving to the list. Suffice it to say, my Endometriosis made me feel very ill, as it caused chronic pain, heavy periods, anaemia, and was growing very close to my bowel risking damaging it. On several occasions, and by various different family members, my choice of attire has been criticized and insulted for example, if I went out in a short skirt as a teen, my mother would say boys will only want you for one thing! Thank you. Dont ask her if shes running as a womens candidate unless you ask him if hes running as a mens candidate. Amicable - She is friendly and cares about the needs of others. It is important that people are valued for themselves and what they bring to the table. How other people choose to dressis none of anyone elses damn business. See for instance how flowery the illustrations of Shakespeares use of the word are in this Pinterest search: And though she be but little she is fierce. Godar points out that a woman may actually engage in a variety of bad behaviors at work. How many men have you hearddescribed as working fathers, let alone dadpreneurs? Then I realised how this term gives excess credit to the man for the creation of a baby. Image description: Persona A: It was just a joke! It certainly warrants multiple re-reads as many of those words are part of my everyday lexicon. For example, I worked in a Hospital as a Social Worker and my boss was a MALE NURSE. 1. Ive had this conversation a lot, particularly latelymy father is having a hard time processing the #metoo movement and all it entails. It seems that Nurses can be extraordinarily sexist, despite their so-called training. 1) Lively, resilient and self-reliant 2) (US and Canadian) frisky 3) (US and Canadian) irritable None of these definitions mention gender at all. Like a girl (run like a girl, throw like a girl). Women are more emotional than men, that is just how it is. 11. Bolshy. Youre just offended! Please leave a comment below. Delivered to your inbox! Looking for something in particular? Junk in the trunk Ass The funny thing is, I never even mentioned wanting a promotion!! Men can and ought to feel emotions, just as much as women, right? throwing one's weight about. For example, if you call a man a bastard you are actually also insulting his MOTHER by inferring she had illicit sex! The gender wage gap does not take into consideration womens career choice, that in general just happen to be different from those of men. Long time reader, first time commenter Reading your posts always takes me so long because I have to follow so many links and I get all distracted and dont come back to comment. It appears you do not actually fully understand it. Youll nod in agreement with some of these examples, and be puzzled at the inclusion of others. Integrate initiatives to broader strategy 3. Benevolent - She makes decisions that benefit others more than herself. Dont let these comments slide when you hear them.If youre feeling sarky. I dont recall hearing of many handsome paintings, for example. Hysteria and hysterical, however, came from the idea that intensely and intrusively emotional states (in women) were due to the uterus, and those terms *do* need to be eradicated. But I have taught to takenoffence to a slew of questions and comments that simply arent offensive, unless you convince yourself that they are. Sugar tits Typically used in the workplace. The amount of mansplaining has been epic! AND baby weight is not an insult. One word appeared 17 times in reviews of women, and never in any of the reviews of men: abrasive. (Im going on record with my hunch that shes a she.). Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. This ones easy. When men and women display the same behaviours in, say, a workplace, men are much more likely to be called assertive confident, powerful or a strong leader, while women get this list. The most commonly used positive term to describe men was analytical, while for women it was compassionate. You speak about a society and nation, but dont identify your own. Reading it I kept nodding and wincing as I thought how often Ive heard all of these. Or should that be EXicon? Women leaders often report being called "aggressive" or "bossy" by superiors or peers. Faced with these atrocities it can feel petty to gently challenge the unequal use of the word abrasive but the same system perpetuates both behaviours and its all based on the same flawed logic. Dontyoure just being politically correct. I mean, ARE there truly masculine and feminine ways of expressing what goes on within, or is this just a way of viewing things based solely upon stereotypical notions of males and females? 10. As if rising in a chosen endeavor is trickery and subterfuge for a female, but aptitude and perseverance for a male. They call the women guest dear and sweetheart. There is a serious problem in the healthcare industry where female patients are assumed to be dramatic or hysterical about their symptoms (or their childrens) , and this can be very, very costly. I really like that youve not only pointed out words that diminish women, but also given the reasons why AND ALTERNATIVES. Pingback: Eros and the irrelevance of #Me Too against Capitalist+Theist immorality The Eros Principle. Can you use them to describe a girl today? I have also met with blatant sexism in all the jobs I have ever held and have often been told to get back in my box if I have been too outspoken (ie outspoken by female standards only). Have you heard about the campaign to #banbossy? Here are some possible words to use to talk about a compassionate woman: Affectionate - She demonstrates kindness to others in a physical way. But so important when I look at that pyrimid. If youve found this article thoughtful and useful, and would like to support me to write more stuff like this, head on over. 7. Stuck-up I was away from home with my 2 year old daughter for a few days and needed to distract her for a few minutes so found some kids TV. I have also heard wench used similarly-but thats a little more obvious. I emailed them immediately in disgust and of course had no reply. Men are denying sexist terminology even when it is blatant swearing. Reviews of women only ever used aggressive as a criticism. She points out that of the insults we use to discuss men and boys, some of them are actually words that INSULT WOMEN. Your information on the gender pay gap is simply incorrect. Free thesaurus definition of words used to describe bossy and interfering people from the Macmillan English Dictionary - a free English dictionary online with thesaurus and with pronunciation from Macmillan Education. Thank you so much for putting what I felt and feel, into such elegant words! I feel its my duty as the majority of the doctors who treat me are younger than me. I think my first step is to share this on my (recently revived) and see how that does. Slapper Im going to link this on a piece Im writing Im working on about rape culture, a term, that as a man, I had to look up and figure out how it applied to me and to our culture. They were not expected to direct activities and lead the group. That book really opened my eyes and changed my thinking and behaviour When I was next at thebeach I made it my mission to find something I liked about every female body that my eyes came to rest upon. This article is quite validating and I feel better about initiating the conversation. Seriously. Potential is another great word. high-handed. But we deal with them as inevitable facts. overpowering. When I really looked at it, I thought the guy is a degenerate loser. Sarah recently postedThailand wrap up. It is patronising, presumptuous and insulting to dismiss a womans argument or behaviour by blaming it on her biology. I cant think that Ive heard it of a man, except for groups and teams: a spirited defence. I am also bothered by the use of woman! as a pejorative; typically used in frustration or anger. 'Pushy' Is Used to Describe Women Twice as Often as Men - The Atlantic Business 'Pushy' Is Used to Describe Women Twice as Often as Men An analysis by a Georgia State University linguist. If you think shes being unreasonable, say so. 1. So, in sum, many words used ostensibly to insult males actually indirectly INSULT FEMALES. Lets pay attention and use words that nurture and encourage our women and girls. Or maybe a male nurse, or homemaker who has perhaps felt uncertainty about the choices he made? ! Talk about insensitive and ill-educated! After an unsuccessful first attempt, Jovanovich became pregnant in October 2020. Lulastic recently posted5 Tips to Boost the Connection in Your Parent Child Relationship, Pingback: The Ninety-Seventh Down Under Feminists Carnival | Zero at the Bone. Subscribe to America's largest dictionary and get thousands more definitions and advanced searchad free! Its so so so hard to swim against the tide. This article is spot on. Dont comment on other peoples sexuality or sexual expression if youre not, you know, participating in it. Ever go to a an interview workshop? Dont say she has no professional training but he worked his way up. He has accused me of being Hormonal, and often tries to imply that I am premenstrual when actually I am annoyed at him because he has done something wrong or said something stupid. I think the key is to always search out the good people, that will respect you. A British actress is the latest high profile woman slam . Men were not all that. In the name Eve is the lesson: Everything bad that happens is because of you females. Sexism, intentional or not, gives people a whole new vocabulary. Unkindness is unkindness, whatever the gender of the person practising it. Does she not understand the importance of leading by example? Horrors! Another medical tern Boggy uterus. Not only can a woman be a 'bitch', but she can also be 'bitchy' (i.e. Thank you, James, Pingback: 3.1 Further Research | Madison Hunt | Ihi Wehi, Bleat I am sorry you missed that point! Im trying to distill this great piece into a concise personnel policy. Mosquito bites ), Insulting names for female body parts (makes me want to vomit if somebody talks about bodies this way): Swap these words for gender neutral ones: Blogger. anti-democratic. The Supreme Court wasnt just having PMS that day. You see no point in mincing your words. When my husband works from home he has his own business with no mention of the fact that hes a Dad.. An unpleasant male boss is rarely known as bitchy, although gay men can face a similar plight to. This seems to infer that you would place extra emphasis upon the home, and child care which, at the end of the day, risks becoming sexist, because these things are stereotypically female roles. Actually, it reflects the speakers lack of vocabulary even more than it casts a shadow on the girl being described. WHY do I get the impression that you are probably an embittered ex-nurse, or child carer, or housewife who feels somehow overlooked in their contribution to society? I dont take advertising or sponsorship for anything on Sacraparental. I have a thing about misogyny and putting women in their place language. The most privileged asshole in the world trying to convince everyone how hard done by he is, by his own stupid life choices. I think this should be added to the list. Hormonal I was speaking to a friend today and she has just started a new job. Andie Fox at Blue Milk writes some of my favourite stuff on how womens care work is largely unacknowledged and unpaid. Ive added most of the suggestions to this list, though Ive omitted a great number of the direct insults that we can all recognise as sexist (even if some peoplethink they are acceptable for use.). Try to take all the judgment and emotion out of what youre talking about. This means that he/she is friendly or able to receive others. Here are some examples of words that can be used to describe strong women: Resilient: a woman who is able to bounce back from adversity and challenges. Many thanks! Token female, Insulting general terms: This is the favourite term of disparagement in my workplace towards any female manager who has a vision she wants to implement. Ball-breaker Say that someone is being unkind, rude, selfish or inconsiderate. PMS moodiness The accusation he made is cloaking his fear that I am somehow taking away his freedom of speech. Is this trivial? Feelings are for everyone. I truly find that setting expectations needs the fewest words possible, and that understanding comes from articles like this one. You complain about words like bubbly, working mother, etc. but there are words that are used to describe exclusively to men too. Entrepreneur. E.g. Besides, it should be a PERSONAL CHOICE, irrespective of gender, as to whether a person wants a career, or wants to stay at home and raise babies. Thats one I get a lot also Co -dependent. When was the last time youve seen a man labeled nurturing or co-dependent? Chick Hooters Brilliant post, (as usual!) Ooh I needed this. Or be careful to use words like spirited and feistyof men and boys too, if you enjoyusing them in a positive way. Gold Digger. Abrasive/Direct. This is WRONG, not only in that the facts are inaccurate (as I pointed out above), but also in that once you start trying to emphasize the value of one persons choice compared to another, you fall into an endless and pointless argument. If you consider yourself a misunderstood, independent woman, the following probably describes you. And, I definitely no, that we do get moody and emotional. If you insultingly say a man is effeminate you compare him to FEMALES and imply that this makes him somehow an object of ridicule. Ask yourself if you speak critically about men as often as you do about women.
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